It's her problem, but you are accepting it as yours. Easy to say, I know. Was she as awful before her dad left? Does she "take after" her mother? Or is it simply that she has a deep feeling of rejection, and one of the easiest ways to express it is to hit back at every opportunity.
If she is 16 she is old enough to understand that it i more…
Ms Current Bedpartner is oriental, very, very petite and takes shoe size 34, which is, I think, 1, in old money. And its damn difficult for her to find good feminine clothing in her sizes, whether that's knickers & erm "exotic" wear, or the more mundane items. more…
I know that scenario. Sometimes when bedpartner asks me a question, I start with a quite sensible reply, but a few moments later its ME who notices that I'm talking complete bollox about something totally irrelevent.
I told you I was in touch with my feminine side
No.. Wait! Actually its rather like when you are lying in more…
you may well be right :( Thanks for the offer of help. I'm not sure what anyone can do. I think Parsley and his ex need to get their heads together and discuss it, and possibly encourage her to access counselling/mediation services. We agreed that as the way forward a couple of months back, but it ain't happening yet. more…
His ex needs to sort it, preferably with PS's help but I know that's not likely to happen because of the ex (not PS). It really isn't fair on any of you. Your heads must be splattered :( Originally, it's all coming from the ex.
Ideally, it'd be good if you two could give it to her straight. It's a minefield though, with teenagers. more…
Very far from it. It is such a bloody touchy issue though and one that cannot be brought up with the other half due to guilt at leaving them usually. It is a minefield, thank God we live far enough away now that it only matters a couple of times a year x more…
You did absolutely the right and kind thing by texting her.
All I can offer in the way of advice has already been given, but you both have all my sympathy - says she who's having a day off from teenagers with XXXX-Large Attitudes and PhDs in Obnoxious and Rude Behaviour. (But, I'm back for more tomorrow... heaven help me. They really more…
Unfortunately, she doesn't visit. The last time she came to this house was August 2008. So our communication with her is usually limited to her telling us to F off by text because we've forgiven her for the last time she told us to F off and have made some tentative attempt to communicate again. Relations can only be described as dire, I'm afrai more…
I think it's time you set some rules down.. If you let this go, it'll get worse. You need to dig your heals in and tell who's the boss. I also think you need Parsleys support on this to create a united front. Let him know how you feel. more…
Having step children is a bloody nightmare - I had a 15 year old step daughter when I met my now hubby - she is now 28 and still a bitch - she won't change her attitude, all you can do is try and alter your reaction to her shittiness. Take a deep breath and have choccie, wine or whatever you need to spoil yourself - you are a better person hun xxx more…
It's so hard to know what to do, there is a part of me that wants to try a different tack and get tough with her, god knows nothing else has worked!! But I fear it would just make things worse. more…
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In response to: "I. Am. Never. Wrong." 2 days old
by QueeneMab [Member]
I would be angry and hurt too.
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by indigoblue [Member]
She's probably feeling pretty stupid! more…
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by The_Walrus Pro
Apparently high rank beats competence, again. And people wonder why the world is doomed. (Doomed, I tell you.) more…
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by Old-Nick Pro
She is probably now feeling very justifiably stupid and is hoping it will all just go away.
You am WIN!
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by NotaBene [Member]
Count to ten. Then ten more. And again if necessary more…
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by soyunperdedor Pro
Breathe out anger, breathe in smugness. more…
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by brokendownangel Pro
Don't blame you, I would be furious too - hope you get that apology x more…
In response to: "anyone for take-away?" 9 days old
by dennypoos [Member]
You have done the child a kindness...Chicken nuggets...yuk! more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 10 days old
by KandAmoist [Member]
It's her problem, but you are accepting it as yours. Easy to say, I know. Was she as awful before her dad left? Does she "take after" her mother? Or is it simply that she has a deep feeling of rejection, and one of the easiest ways to express it is to hit back at every opportunity.
If she is 16 she is old enough to understand that it i more…
In response to: "Put a sock in it." 10 days old
by KandAmoist [Member]
Ms Current Bedpartner is oriental, very, very petite and takes shoe size 34, which is, I think, 1, in old money. And its damn difficult for her to find good feminine clothing in her sizes, whether that's knickers & erm "exotic" wear, or the more mundane items. more…
In response to: "Good suction." 10 days old
by KandAmoist [Member]
I know that scenario. Sometimes when bedpartner asks me a question, I start with a quite sensible reply, but a few moments later its ME who notices that I'm talking complete bollox about something totally irrelevent.
I told you I was in touch with my feminine side
No.. Wait! Actually its rather like when you are lying in more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 15 days old
by sixpence Pro
you may well be right :( Thanks for the offer of help. I'm not sure what anyone can do. I think Parsley and his ex need to get their heads together and discuss it, and possibly encourage her to access counselling/mediation services. We agreed that as the way forward a couple of months back, but it ain't happening yet. more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 15 days old
by auntiegwen [Visitor]
Stop communicating with her, it's going to drive you insane. Can I do anything? more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
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In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by rowtheboat [Member]
*stocks up on condoms*
;)
Hope the ranting helped, medear - bloody rudeness of bloody brats must really get to you some days more than most.
I prescribe your own bathtime tonight accompanied by a glass of wine and a snog off your man.
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In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by subville [Member]
His ex needs to sort it, preferably with PS's help but I know that's not likely to happen because of the ex (not PS). It really isn't fair on any of you. Your heads must be splattered :( Originally, it's all coming from the ex.
Ideally, it'd be good if you two could give it to her straight. It's a minefield though, with teenagers. more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
:) Hope everything's going well for you. I don't envy you the work with teenagers!!! X more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by brokendownangel Pro
Very far from it. It is such a bloody touchy issue though and one that cannot be brought up with the other half due to guilt at leaving them usually. It is a minefield, thank God we live far enough away now that it only matters a couple of times a year x more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by Japes [Member]
You did absolutely the right and kind thing by texting her.
All I can offer in the way of advice has already been given, but you both have all my sympathy - says she who's having a day off from teenagers with XXXX-Large Attitudes and PhDs in Obnoxious and Rude Behaviour. (But, I'm back for more tomorrow... heaven help me. They really more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
It's nice to be reminded I'm not alone ;) more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by scoobydoofus Pro
Sounds like a horrible situation. It seems like her mother needs to be dealing with her attitude. Hope she's not encouraging it... more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
Thanks, you're right and I feel a lot calmer having blogged it. more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
Unfortunately, she doesn't visit. The last time she came to this house was August 2008. So our communication with her is usually limited to her telling us to F off by text because we've forgiven her for the last time she told us to F off and have made some tentative attempt to communicate again. Relations can only be described as dire, I'm afrai more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by scoobydoofus Pro
Ruby's right, it's irritating but not important in the scheme of things. You know she is a cow, so her reaction is not unexpected.
For now, venting is the best way of getting it out of your system - scream along to some loud music for a while.
The next time she visits, you should treat her as the wicked stepmother she make more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by rubychoo [Member]
You're knackered and you've got a lot on your plate ...
Your stepdaughter's shitty response to a kindly meant message will filter down to the bottom of the heap before the day's end ...
Look forward to seeing a sleeping Smudge and getting a decent kip later. more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by roasted [Member]
I think it's time you set some rules down.. If you let this go, it'll get worse. You need to dig your heals in and tell who's the boss. I also think you need Parsleys support on this to create a united front. Let him know how you feel.
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In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by brokendownangel Pro
Having step children is a bloody nightmare - I had a 15 year old step daughter when I met my now hubby - she is now 28 and still a bitch - she won't change her attitude, all you can do is try and alter your reaction to her shittiness. Take a deep breath and have choccie, wine or whatever you need to spoil yourself - you are a better person hun xxx more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
ps. she's 16 more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
It's so hard to know what to do, there is a part of me that wants to try a different tack and get tough with her, god knows nothing else has worked!! But I fear it would just make things worse. more…
In response to: "I am grumpy" 16 days old
by sixpence Pro
fingers itching ;)
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